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I know Aisha marryed prophet Muhammed pbuh at and early age?

1) Why is this so controversial? 2) Would you ever let your 9 or 14 year old daughter marry a 40ish year old man? Please be honest. "A Platonic Ravel" Excuse me, but did you know I am Muslim? I am not trying to start a stir, I only want answers. Why don't you just buzz off if you can't answer my question? NONE of you guys answered my question. Why are you guys avoiding my questions?

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1. what happened 1500 years ago between Mohammed and Aisha was common in all biblical cultures... Mary herself was about 13 or 14 when she gave birth to Jesus... (and we all know she was married to Joseph before that event, so that tells us she married early and Joseph wasnt a teen either, he was a man) Life expectancies were short back then.. If you read even in the bible itself.. there were many such marriages of young women to older men.. It was common place, it was not pedophilia.. it was normal and society accepted it.. Sometimes ties between tribes and to prevent wars.. sometimes due to lack of men since the wars killed off many, and just cause once women reached puberty they were of marrying age... Women back then were not like us today, whereas we sit around watching TV, painting our nails, flipping through fashion magazines, and watching NSync all day.. They got out younger and hauled water, cultivated crops, ground flour. made bread, sewed their own clothes, helped mothers with younger siblings.. They were hard working women by the time they reached puberty...
2. At that time it was custom coz women use to get matured much faster and it is better if any muslim girl turns to do Haram......forbidden sex outside marriage...and become lesbians and stupid stuff.and by the way they just did nikah agreement to marriage but the marriage was commenced later on .. and that was done on political purpose .. too.. they did nikah but they both lived in different homes.........People why do you always try to blame our Prophet SAW.. who brought guidance mankind and spotless character in the world..
3. You seem very intent on making a bad picture of Muslims. Well, I think you can bother asking this question after (1)reading that country's and era's literature (2) researching about their culture (3)reading the Quran (4)understanding Muhammad's position at that time. That would probably keep you busy for awhile. EDIT: Having trouble making inferences? I actually answered your question in a sarcastic voice. Well, here's the answer: (1)It was their culture. They did that even in Europe. (2)Having a lot of wives of considerably different ages demonstrated his leadership abilities and wisdom. Do you think you can handle a household of 40 wives while being under scrutiny? Controversy? She was from the tribe that was in a struggle to destroy Islam and its followers I think. I am not sure of it though because I studied this stuff a long time ago. It also depends on your Madhab. Does that make it clear enough? The reason you ask these questions is that you're unable to find answers yourself by doing some research and thinking. if you're going through a religious crisis, you must not let people influence you.
4. mohammad was 54 when he married a 6 year old. it is the example of all islamic countries today. you see the sun matures them and they are ready for marriage. allah knows best never question allah. he is mohammads puppit god.
5. It's controversial because of people trying to rationalize a deviant sexual behavior. No , I would never sin against God and allow the daughter that God gave me to be dealt with treacherously! When Mary married Joesph, Joesph was not 54 years old! And how convenient it was for young girls to mature early only in Muhammeds time. Also, why didn't any of God's other Prophets have sex with little girls?
6. I'm not a Muslim, but I believe that she was sort of "engaged" to him at 6, married to him at 9, the marriage was consumated when she was 12 and he died when she was 18. No, I would never allow that and it is controversial because non-Muslims see it as simply one more bit of evidence that Muhommad was not a prophet of God. It still goes on though today in some places (and cultures/religions). See article: "In Saudi Arabia, an 11-year-old boy married his 10-year-old cousin under the traditional Sharia laws of Islam and the couple plans to move in together after a ceremony in the summer. The boy's father wants to have a big party for his son." http://www.digitaljournal.com/article/251880/11_year_old_Saudi_marries_his_10_year_old_cousin
7. At tthat time, age 9 -14 was NOT uncommon to marriage. Infact Aisha broke her engagement with a Jew before marrying to Muhamad saw..
8. i jsut think this answer from "anonymous" was great: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ar0lcErSGA_K5GNhVXXD6p3n7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20080323184952AAoByrH anyways it's done in many places. marrying at like 15 or 16. I wouldnt mind getting married at 16 =D lol that was only last yr for me (being 16, not being married LOL)! and i have met 40 yr old men that were sooooooooooooo cool. and had crushes on them =D so its not so far fetched...i mean, ppl always have crushes on teachers LOLLL, same ages there =p 9 yrs old is tough to believe. i wouldnt let my 9 yr old get married. then again...we are living in a different time. we live past 40 yrs old now!!! its so controversial because ppl want to prove that the prophet was a pedophile, so they can completely discredit him. and therefore discredit islam. etc etc. it's one doubtful thing that they like to cling onto. and many muslims havent researched it enough to have a good response to them, so the non-muslims have figured out that it is a possible weak point. so they attack it! and only the very few are able to give the appropriate responses...esp abt aisha most likely being older!!! (sry, im rly tired right now, if i din answer ur q then my apologies =/) @ a platonic ravel: that has got to be the worst way that i have EVER seen to answer a fellow muslim's innocent question. seriously. this questioner doesnt deserve to be answered that way...and people will listen to you more if you speak to them in a proper manner! and not make fun of them!! astaghfirullah
9. http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503544940 http://www.topix.com/forum/world/denmark/T75O9E1B7CN9QHJMO http://en.allexperts.com/q/Islam-947/Marriage-Holy-Prophet-PBUH.htm These are several links i thought you might find useful..like sister Mintee said, this is something that happened 1400 years ago..my own grandmother got married when she was 13 (in 1940) when my grandfather was in his late 20s and this was less than 70 years ago.. Also, there are several views that it is not certain that Aisha(RA) was indeed 9 years old at the time of her marriage..brother richard dawkins had posted a very interesting question on this, but sadly it got deleted..
10. controversial only bc it is not in accordance to the norms of the west or their teachings. it is still controversial now when a forty plus man marries a 20 plus woman. But if the man is rich, the family of the woman approves with all their heart. LOL if it would be my daughter, who am i to question one to marry her if he got so much power and would make worlds unite and have peace and harmony among warring tribes., We're speaking here of marriage, not just for pastime relationship or prostitution. Many families even among christians sold their daughters or sons to old men or even have them have sex with animals.. however, if there is a great difference in height, like the man is more than 10 inches taller, that i would not approve, even if they are of the same age , social status etc. but why don't they cite what their holy scriptures say that they can have sex with their own parents, brothers and sisters.
11. I do not live in 7th century Arabia. I have been to Egypt and other places in Africa and from my travels and my reading it was and in many places still is very common for teenagers to be wed to older men. This is and was especially the case in places and times when and where the average life expectancy is 50 years or less as it was in 7th century Arabia.
12. was hazrat aisha really 9 or 14?
13. dear why would we worry about this when it was the culture of the past...even in old america and europe a 14 year old could marry a man of age 30 through 40....thats how society was.....dont believe me??? watch the crucible and valmont.....n u will know how it used to be back then. valmont is well known for showing the true french aristrocratic culture. n at the end of the movie the 14 year old girl gets married to a 45-50 year old man (arranged by her mom gladly).....and all the riches were invited to the wedding. only the non muslims make it controversial cuz they hate Islam and our Prophet. child marriage is still there in many parts of the world cuz for some people it is okay!
14. Salam! This question doesn't have to be answered by males or by girls only! This question has being asked over and over and over and over and over within the just last few weeks.......... If you looking for an real answer you shouldn't be looking here. You need 2 some reasearch yourself, once you done that. You will discover that it was a normal 2 marry a much younger girls in that particular era (even non muslims did it)! Remember: Today we think differently from 1400 years ago, i don't see why people give so much attention 2 one particular action made 1400 years ago! There are so many things that amazes me, for example the details that Qu'ran holds about scientific stuff that has only being discovered 70 odd years ago! Like it is mentions how the Earth orbits and the Sun doesn't; that the universe is expanding; how the embryo is formed etc......
15. A 54yr old prophet of God dreaming of a child as his wife and marrying her at 6 with her parents permission and you cant see the controversy in this? This example of godliness by the prophet Mohammad set a precedence of unknown horrific proportion throughout the centuries of child sex abuse amongst his followers to this very day!!! I dare anyone to deny this isn't so. This is condoned in Islam. The fact is NO-ONE of sound mind had ever achieved this distinction of making a marriage to a 6yr old believably ordained and blessed by God. The ONLY reason Muslims feel they must justify this ungodly union is because you believe Mohammad to be a true prophet of God. I cant apologize for the harshness in my tone re your prophet cos I'm so sick and tired of hearing Muslims defend Mohammad's good name at the expense of an innocent child. No, I'm not referring to Aisha that is done and gone and God will judge him for it. I'm speaking of the children in today's world who are at risk with parents who don't see a problem with this because if it's good enough for Mohammad than by all means why not emulate him. God have mercy on us all Edit: Mews25: what can you posibly give a 40yr old worldly man as an inexperienced 16yr old other then the obvious?...that is your body...for cleaning, washing, cooking and sex. A 40yr old looking at a 16yr old is not interested in her intellect ( I know you aint going to believe me) nor having meaningful conversations with you. You may think you are mature enough to be married to a 40yr but why not a 54 or 64 even 74yr old? Age doesnt matter right? Do you seriously believe a 6yr that lived 1400yrs ago was smarter and more mature than you are at 17? When you have a child of 6 you may think differently. Lets hope you marry a Muslim man who does not condone child abuse in this fashion. I know you said you wouldnt allow it for your 9yr old but when you discover that Mohammad married a 6yr old I'm sure you would try to justify that anyway. I've been on many Muslim sites and I have not seen one scholar that claims she was 9...they say 6. and deflowered at 9!
16. 1)Many Muslims aren't sure when she was married. Some say she was 6 when she was bethrothed and married at 9. Others say she was bethrothed at 9 but married at 13. There's no way of knowing how old she was short of asking her or the prophet(SAW) which we can't do. 2)No I wouldn't let my 9 year old daughter get married. I've placed an age limit on how old the guy can be when he marries my daughter. 26 for the guy. My husband has decided that his daughters will be married by the time they are 15 to their male cousins. I'm fine with this. EDIT:Scholars say that Mariam was only 13 when she gave birth to Isa(peace be upon him). Bukhari says she was engaged at 6 and married at 9. Since Bukhari is the most authentic collection of Hadiths then I believe it. Also girls today are going through puberty at 7 and 8 years old now and having their periods as early as 9 in the modern age because of the hormones put into milk, cattle and chickens. These hormones in turn go into the human body which starts the onset of puberty very early in girls.
17. It's funny how Muslims agree with this & claim it was the culture of the past. If that's the case 'Why didn't Jesus Christ do this ?I wouldn't let my 14yr never mine a 9yr do this for any amount of money .................& another thing Why are the earliest books of Judaism and Christianity available from before Islam and they are in total disagreement with the Qu'ran? We have these scriptures that predated Islam but there is not a single scripture before Muhammad that is in agreement with the Qur'an? The Qu'ran teaches it is the continuation verifying that which was before it and that Allah is the God of Abraham...Shouldn't there be some historical evidence to support this?
18. Yes it was common for girls to get married at the young age of around 12, but not as early as 6 or 9 and not to a man around the age of 53. Even if it was acceptable during that time that's okay, the controversy is that because it happened and was written in the quran, men of that age are still doing it today and in today's society it is pedophilia. Today if that were to happen in a civilized country such as America the child would be taken into protective custody of the state and the parents and the old man would go to jail for sexual abuse and failure to protect their child. Since it would be considered appropriate in their religion this means that the child would not be placed with any family members who practices Islam because of fear that they would not protect the child. The child would be placed in foster care and put up for adoption as the parents rights would be terminated under this circumstance. That means the child would probably no longer be able to practice Islam since more than likely she would be placed in a "Christian" home where the parents know nothing of Islam and would want to raise her in their faith. So you can see that something considered appropriate in one faith and country would be totally detrimental to the child in this country.